You’re a smart person. You know that the key to a happy life is to strike a balance between work and home life. But that’s easier said than done, right?
When work is going crazy, and your boss wants you deliver the universe, but school lunches don’t make themselves plus there’s football practice, tennis, ballet, art club, after school club, or parent meetings, and you haven’t been to the gym for a few weeks, let alone going on a date with your significant other in like three years… This leaves you feeling frazzled, spread too thin, and worn down to the bone, right? Spare time is a distant memory, and self care is getting bumped down the priority list.
Over doing work and under doing joy is one sure road to hell. Or at least, mild dissatisfaction and a nasty dose of work related stress.
Putting hobbies aside to prioritise work sucks the joy from your life. Prioritising your job over your romantic or social life leaves you feeling left out and lonely. Putting your career ahead of family commitments is the worst guilt trip of all time. And not carving out the time to look after yourself will ultimately lead you down the path of burnout and exhaustion.
Being good at your job does not mean you have to make these sacrifices. But for so many women, there is so much pressure to get ahead in your career that it can really feel like it.
Saying yes to tight deadlines, increased workload, more responsibilities, longer hours, when you are already feeling your social or sex life disappearing in the rear view mirror is not a good choice for you my friend.
So, I’m here to help you say NO to all those YES’s.
Here are my top tips on finding that elusive work / life balance:
1. Make time regularly for meditation.
Even if this is quietly sitting for 5 minutes and just breathing - perfect. Totally indulge in that quiet stillness, and let the answers you need come forth from within.
2. Make time for the things you love.
Whether it’s reading, cooking, spending time with friends and family, getting to the gym. Reading. Whatever it is you love, do it. Don’t skip it.
3. Streamline your To Do List.
Check in with what is really necessary, what can be axed and what can be delegated. This is a case of working smarter, not harder:
"The key is not to prioritize what's on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities."
- Stephen Covey
4. Goal setting.
Make sure that you have clear goals, not just in your work life, but in your personal life too. Check in with them daily, weekly, at least quarterly. Journalling is a great way to do this.
5. Schedule in some joy!
Make time to do the things that you love to do. Whether that's self care, spa days or spending time on your hobbies or with your loved ones - make lots of time for it every week!
We can’t work all the time, and nor would we want to. We also can’t play all the time, that’s not financially viable for most people. But we can find a balance, and that has to do with being in touch with who you are and what you need in any given moment.
If we get sucked into the world of emails, calendar notifications, deadlines and client meetings, we can lose touch with who we are and what we came here to do. For me, it's essential to get grounded and check in with who I am in order to restore that balance. And to keep it in balance, I want to be sure I have lots of joyful experiences ahead of me to look forward to.
And you deserve the same too! Good luck putting these tips into action - why not leave me a comment below to let me know how you get on?